Stop thinking, positive thinking or controlling the mind is way different, than to question our believes altogether.
Meditation may take away the energy from our believes but does not necessary take away our believes, so whenever we stop meditating, we fall back into them.
Questioning our thoughts lets us see our believes*, so we can let go of holding and identifying with them. It does not matter if the believe is right or wrong.
Believes are thoughts with which i identify and hold on to.
The base-root of all ego-identification is the believe, that we are the body, the thinking and that any kind of sensations, self-image, feelings, joy, pain, addiction or desire happens inside of my-self and therefore is happening to “me”. So here are the Questions to ask:
“Is that really me?”
“How do i feel and act, when i believe that?”
“How would it be, if i don´t believe ,that this, (any inner experience), is me or happening in my-self..?”
When we realize, that we are the observer, we may start to loose the pressure, stress, self-judgment, holding and resistance towards our selves. We do not feel the need anymore to fix ourselves, because there is no self to begin with.
We may still need some healing, but this is only possible on a body and mind level and we can do so, while being already in harmony and peace .
On our spiritual level, there is nothing to be healed.
Paradoxically, once we realized, that we have no self (nobody actually has a personal self), then it is also true, that the body, thinking and emotions are who we are…
We may still have a personal self to some degree, but it will be not a prison anymore.
We are free to come or go and be in surrender.
Surrender is a state of non-doing.
Non-doing is a doing without a “doer”/self (without any manipulation, desire to change, resistance, holding or identification).
Like the flower opens without thinking, our heart beats by itself and our breathing happens without the need for us to think about it. We are at all times in surrender, but we try to control our experience, like sitting in a roller-coaster and thinking that we can actually change its course, because we identify with the roller-coaster, which we are not.
We see different clouds and think, this is me and this is you, when in reality we are all the sky itself.
When we are in surrender, we naturally act and do, whatever needs to be done, but much faster and without the suffering.