A paradox view and paradigm-change in understanding Addiction and Laziness

This article is about: what would happen if we accept laziness or addiction as a part of oneself, rather than as an enemy or sickness. Accepting my shadows and recognizing believes, is a choice leading to presence.

The world of Psychology and Coaching often teaches, that addiction comes from being unhappy with your life or being lonely and the solution would be to change your life and start living your dream.
This is only a fraction of the truth.
Such a believe, that we need to change ourself and our life, in order to get free of addiction, is one of the reasons, why there are so many people seeking help with addiction, but mostly end up alone or in a self help-group. The School of Psychology is mostly limited to the mind and the success-rate is extremely low. Just to give You one example:

Rich and successful people are unusually often addicted to some kind of drug, mostly cocaine, their Work or possession. They are often living their “Dream” and have a very “exciting” life. Brad Pitt is a famous example of a successful alcoholic, who had it all, but was drinking for almost half of his life.
There are many reasons for addiction; some might be surprising to You..

I would like to question addiction as a sickness in itself. If my believe is, that health means to function in society, be happy, have a choice, free will, be successful etc., then it´s easy to agree, that addiction is a sickness.

From a therapeutic view, addicts are far away from happiness. Contrary an olympia athlete, a beauty queen or a Donald Trump are the high achievers and therefore the “lucky” ones.

It seems that as more self-(determination) we have, as more we are considered healthy. From another perspective, i see that the high achievers and successful people are often more destructive to the earth and humanity, then a simple, lazy person. A lazy person or an addicted person, do not want to go to war, kill anyone or win a battle. They may be alright with what they have. But many so called high achievers are addicted to success, power, money, appreciation, publicity, being someone, being a “good” or humanitarian person(and being appreciated for that), trying to change the world and make it a “better”/ more spiritual place (on the base of what they believe to be good/spiritual) and so on. And then there is the addiction to thinking and the Self(Ego) itself.

What if the goal of humanity is to realize our true nature, which in Buddhist and mystic terms is selfless? From that perspective, aren’t addicts and lazy people in some ways even nearer to selflessness, than the high achievers and successful personalities? Many addicts which i met, seem to posses extraordinary humility, empathy and simplicity.

Of course many addicts suffer and go through “hell”, but we all suffer to some degree in life and what if suffering is a crucial part of life ? That does not mean, we shouldn’t help each other, it only means to not feel pity for someones suffering or yourself and find the meaning in such experiences.

We need to help each other, but on which base? How would it be different, if the base of our help would be to not lessen our suffering only, but to also become more who we are and realize our true selfless nature?

I don’t buy, that addicts or so called “under achievers” are/have a problem to be solved. They are striving for what we all strive, because as i see it, the essence of our true nature is Selflessness (unity) and not just simple individual happiness.

If successful people would work together with the “lazy” people and addicts etc. and learn from each other, than i am sure, humanity will fulfill a self-loving but selfless prophecy of peace and wisdom.

Born in Transnistria (U.D.S.S.R) Former Zen(Rinzai)-Monk (in Eigenji and Sogenji-Japan, Psycho-spiritual Counselor, Zen-Meditation-Master (Ikkyu Zen Dojo) , Singer, Improvisation-Dancer, Hospice-Counsellor, Children Counsellor, Writer.

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